When you want to make your dreams come true, the first thing you MUST do is TELL EVERYONE. There are a few powerful factors at play here.
(1) Whether you believe in magic, the power of the Universe, answered prayers, The Secret (affiliate link), luck, or no greater intervention at all, the circumstances, people, and things needed to support the successful realization of a dream will begin aligning when you put your plans out there. There might be mystical factors at play, but the exercise has practicality and science behind it, too. You are forced to come up with an articulated plan when you take something from the dreamy haze of your brain and put it into written or spoken words. And you form a much clearer picture of your dream, tapping into your brain’s Reticular Activating System (RAS), which controls your attention and mediates your conscious and sub-conscious. Basically, RAS helps you notice available resources. You’re going to need resources to attain most goals and make your dreams come true. Read more about this in David Allen’s Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity (affiliate link). Or dive into a more global guide to making your dreams come true, including an introduction to RAS, with Tony Robbins’ Awaken the Giant Within (affiliate link).
(2) Accountability. No one wants to face the prospect of failure. The SHAME! Amiright? When you talk about your plan, your secret is out. You now have a motivating stick poking you from behind. You’re going to get a big whack to the ego if you slack on working toward your dreams. What will you say if you’re not making clear progress when someone asks, “So, what’s up with that whole _________ thing you were thinking about doing?” You won’t say much. How embarrassing! Create personal accountability by telling people who are important to you AND people who play a smaller role in your life. The most important people will ask you about your dreams because they love you. The less imfluential people will shape ALL of their expectations of you around your goals and dreams, because that’s probably all they know about you. And they will ask you about it in passing. Be prepared to UPDATE everyone on your goals.
(3) Telling people about your dreams can mean conquering a big fear about your ability to live those dreams. Sometimes what we want seems too big, or too hard, or too far away. It’s scary to commit to something of that scale. When you tell someone about your dreams, you have killed that fear and won’t have to face it again. You’re over that commitment hump. Just like that. And if you can face down the fear of commitment, you know that you’ll be able to do it with any other fears that will come up as you are working on attaining your dreams.
So what are you waiting for? Want to make your dreams come true? Share with the world where you are now, what you want to do, and what you know you’ll have to do to get there. Maybe you don’t already know everything you’ll need to know, but you have to start somewhere!
“Everyone who got to where they are had to begin where they were.” -Richard Paul Evans
Click on over to the Sailing Bohème Facebook page and share your dream! While you’re there, you can scroll through and see when I first shared our sailing dream on my personal social pages (or find the original share on my personal Instagram page). Sharing scared me but I did it and made the fist step toward making my dreams come true. A sailing adventure happened shortly thereafter because of that post. And people are asking about my sailing dream!