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It’s so good to see you! This website is My Life as a Friend. It’s a practice and model of healthy and helpful self talk; loving always, sometimes serious and stern, not always right, but always sincere.  This should look like a personal journal of ruminations and advice, because that’s exactly its source. Maybe we could be friends, and this will sound like the words of your closest confidant. Or maybe not. Maybe our life experiments don’t overlap enough. That’s okay.

Your Friend

Values

I’m the kind of friend who calls ease, honesty, trust, and loving kindness the opportunities for happiness, excruciatingly pure feeling, and joy at the wonder of it all. Maybe that sounds ridiculous to say out loud, but it goes right often enough, and that makes me love this particular way of being a friend.

Project

For awhile now, I have been seeking out happiness. Happiness being that positive sense of well-being, the result of an intentional practice, not a sporadic windfall of circumstances. I work on this and that works for me. I know happiness will look different to different people (for example, my ease and delight in the outdoors, may alarm you) and some are more or less free to pursue it (circumstances vary and freedom very much equates to the chance of social privilege in this World). Here I’ll write the story of my investigation and privileged pursuit of happiness; My Particular Way of Being in the World. I will share how I’ve gone about my investigation, and what I’ve learned from my friends, my teachers.

My Friend

Happiness

Where do you stand with happiness? Maybe you’re feeling it theses days. Maybe you know it, but it is hard to come by lately. Maybe happiness simply baffles you; it’s something you can see in others, something you want, but you don’t know where to start. If you ask me, I’l say: Start by saying yes to opportunities and looking for the markers of the life of happiness to spring up within you. Those markers feel like happiness, joy, well-being, ease, comfort, satisfaction, relief, peace. Let’s say yes and feel all the feels together.

Outlook

How’s your outlook? Optimistic, hopeful, committed to improving your world? Do you want more of those modes? What about success? Is it defined by your experiences, passions, and well-being? Are your best days filled with time with family, friends, and community? Let’s thrive in this mode together.

Vision

Do you have a vision for what you want out of life now or in the future? Does your vision of life fill you with joy and inspire you? Do you feel a dull ache when you ignore that vision? Let’s build a vision together.

That Dreamy Life

If any of these questions resonate, you might have found the right place for that dreamy life and you’re in good company. The power to dream is a portal to happiness. I’ll show you a window into my dreaming and vision and everything that breathes life into the process of moving it from imagination to reality. Every post on this site invites you to dream and build your own beautiful version of a happy life.